R U Thinking?

Are you feeling the pressure?

Sometimes it feels like everyone’s trying to push you into having sex; your friends, your boyfriend - even TV shows!

You’re not alone
You may feel like the only virgin, but the average age that girls in the UK have sex is 16.3 years – so not all the friends who say they’ve done it really have.

The waiting game:
Having sex doesn’t make boys like you more – or stick around. If you’re pressured into sex you might regret it - and you don’t get your first time twice.

Every girl deserves to make her own decision in her own time.

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Are they trying to push you into it?

How do you deal with the pressure?

Teena: I always thought sex made a relationship real – made him love you and stuff.

Shanty: As if! Sex can mess stuff up wiv a lad if ur jst doin it 2 keep ‘im happy. 

Marie: But then if you don’t do it, you feel like a freak cos your boyfriend loses interest and your mates say they’re having sex all the time…

Lady E: …but how many of them are being real? I know loadsa girls who made stuff up…ok, ok, including me! And if a lad really likes you he’s not gonna want to force you into anything, is he?

Is he bugging you about sex?

Here’s how to deal with a desperate man:

He says: “You don’t fancy me.”
You say: “You’re gorgeous, but I wanna know you better.”

He says: “My friends think I’m an idiot cos we’re not doing it.”
You say: “You should care more about what I think.”

He says: “If we don’t do it soon, I’ll explode!”
You say: “You need biology lessons...”

He says: “You’re 16!”
You say: “Just because it’s legal, doesn’t mean I have to. I’ll decide when I’m ready.”

He says: “If you loved me you’d do it.”
You say: “If you loved me, you wouldn’t say that.”