Love and life after sex
After having sex everything changes. Your emotions might go through the roof and you’ll feel like laughing and crying all at once. You might like the guy more – or maybe a whole lot less. If you didn’t use protection, you could have a whole heap of problems to face up to. Here’s what to expect after you’ve had sex.
What makes a good relationship great?
A good relationship is about being friends, trusting and respecting each other and never having to pretend.
When does sex come into it?
The amount of time you might be together before you’re ready is different for everyone. Kissing and cuddling is enough for some couples for months, or even years. Once you feel relaxed and happy, and can be yourself with him, sex is more likely to be fun and enjoyable.
What happens if it goes wrong?
If a relationship doesn’t feel right anymore, or stops making you happy, don’t be scared to move on. Most people have a few relationships before they find ‘the one’. If he dumps you, talk to someone you trust and remember that it happens to most people and you will get over it.
What will life be like after we’ve had sex?
For some people, sex becomes a healthy and enjoyable part of their relationship. Others find they don’t really like it, or aren’t ready after all, and decide to put it on hold for a while. After you first have sex you may feel confused or emotional, but the more time you’ve spent deciding whether to do it and which contraception is best to use, the more likely you’ll feel happy afterwards.
What if we have an accident?
If you always use condoms properly they are 99% effective – but if you do have an accident or forget to use something, it’s not too late to take action. You can take the emergency contraceptive pill up to 72 hours after you’ve had unprotected sex and it’s best to get checked out for STIs.
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Sex - what are the risks?
I’ve been dumped
For most girls, getting dumped is something we just have to go through - maybe more than once.
Why do I feel so bad?
Being dumped by someone you care about is hard to deal with. You may feel desperate and sad, thinking about him constantly. You might wonder why it happened and if there’s something you did wrong. It knocks your confidence, but you’ll feel better in time and there are loads more gorgeous boys out there.
Was it my fault?
Sometimes relationships fizzle out, or one person fancies someone new. Learn from the experience and don’t be put off relationships for life. Talk to someone you trust about your feelings and try to keep an open mind when you meet someone new.
A girl's point of view
If u respect urself, and ur bf, u really can find tru luv.
I’ve been dumped so many times it’s not even funny. That’s why I take things slow now. I need to trust a guy before things get serious.
