You're not the only one
So you don't know much about dating girls, snogging or sex? You're not the first lad to feel confused and you won't be the last. Sex can be well confusing, but don’t dive in at the deep end. Find out why you’re not alone - and how to cope with the mates piling pressure on you.
You’re not the only one feeling under pressure
The pressure your mates put you under is worse than the pressure you pile on yourself. Most of us have to put up with it at some point, but friends bragging, and cussing you for being a virgin, is a nightmare.
The big brag
There’s every chance your mates are telling porkies to make them look like studs. Rushing into sex just to impress them could make you feel like a plum because you didn’t make your own decision.
Dealing with it
Sex rocks when both people like each other and feel ready – don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Knowing if the time is right
Dealing with the pressure
Dev: I’m proud to be waitin’ for the right girl – I put up with a ton of hassle at school tho, for being a virgin.
P Raul: Lads are just like that – it don’t mean nothin’. I remember cussing people, cos I’d done it and they hadn’t. But that’s just what you do, innit?
No.2: I got really bugged about being a virgin tho. And I’m sure my mates hadn’t done it either. In the end, my girlfriend pushed me into it, which wasn’t cool.
G.I.: No1 shud push U in2 it. I ignord da hassle & W8tiD 4 da rite grl – I’ve nevr regretted dat 4 a 2nd.
How to say no to your girl
Put the brakes on, pushy lady:
She says: Don’t you fancy me?
You say: Yeah – but I respect you too.
She says: My friends think we shoulda done it by now.
You say: They don’t know what’s best for us.
She says: You don’t need to have a condom.
You say: I’m not ready to be a dad.
She says: Let’s just get it over with.
You say: If we wait ‘til we’re ready it’ll be much better.
She says: If you loved me you’d want to do it.
You say: It’s because I love you that I want to wait.
A guy's point of view
There’s nothing wrong with a guy waiting for someone special. It’s better than doing it as soon as you can with just anyone - or getting pushed into it, like I did.
When I do find the right girl, I'll be well nervous.
